END …

End(not of human life), its inevitable, it always comes uninvited, makes no sound, clearly visible all the time, no one can escape it. It comes for everything, dear or loathed, loved with life or hated to death. It swallows, it destroys, it devastates, it perishes, shows no mercy. End is more painful then death, it never spares, no matter how much hard you try, it doesn’t listens, it undeniably broods over, leaves no space for positive energies to help in recovery … putting a fight is worthless, it goes only when the end itself decides, it has to go. It shows a mirage of light and relief ahead but, that path towards light keeps on elongating on its own, also, the path becomes dreadful with each step forward. Again, this piece of writing is not about ending of a life form of any kind, not human not any other animal or plant.

Sometimes, something ends very privately, sometimes people watch it coming along with others. Sometimes the end is only for one but it is known to many, but no body can help, not even GOD, if he exists. As we say all is GOD’s creation, but i doubt that when he created this virus,”The End” he was ever able to invent an antidote, not even till date. Or might be we are just experimental rats and this earth is a laboratory where GOD is experimenting with different things and most deadly of all, “The end”. End could have been bearable, but it directly hurts your emotions/sentiments. The weakest component of human soul, with least defenses.

The after shocks brought in when the end begins to settle down, can’t be a notch lower than what we feel on earth in the middle of an earthquake. The same quake starts inside the brain. Because of the after shocks, brutally affected parts of brain are those which control the emotions/sentiments, capacity to bear/tolerate/abide, control over what we speak, how we react, what we are ready to listen and accept. Nothing seems meaningful. A surge of emotional tsunamis are triggered owning to the realization of how absolutely helpless we become against “The End”.  The end can’t be frightened away, can’t be defeated, can’t be killed. The only choice is to bear it, and live with it.

End is also very personally attributed to each individual it affects, the after math of the end is just meaningless to the people who are not facing same kind of end in their own lives. When people observe the reactions, thoughts of a person experiencing the end, they say, “What crap is this all about? Can’t you be just normal? Have you lost your senses? Be practical? Think ! Move on!”. And these all dialogues appear equally crap, abnormal and superficial to the person who is experiencing an end with something in his own life, which he don’t want to loose. Such a person confronts others and says, “You people won’t understand, ever. Leave me be alone. It is my problem, I’ll handle it. Don’t be bothered about me out of your happy life. Go away ! For GOD’s sake”. People in such times become saints, they advice the victim, “keep on fighting, make a stand, you can overcome this, you are special, everything that happens is for betterment, always”. But inside, the person bearing the end and putting a fight against its phenomenal power, knows that he cannot win in any possible way. He has to surrender and let the end feast over him, gratify it with all what it wants, till it is satisfied and leaves for some new victims.

A Choice ?

Choice, we say is the power of selection, chosen thing or the “best part”. We all are so different with our different choices. Why is so ? We attribute this behavior of choice to DNA, Genes, Society, Zodiac, Needs or just for the sake of making a choice we choose. We choose our clothes, we choose our education, we choose our home, we choose our things of daily use, we choose our life partner. Day in and day out we continuously make choices and ninety percent of the times we are dis-satisfied with our choices. Then comes in a BIG word “if”. If we would have chosen so or in such a way is the line we think and say. Why not make a careful choice initially itself ?

Our choices go wrong because nearly all the time we are chasing our dreams and try to make our dreams come true with our choices. Hither thither we waste our choices till the extent we are so trapped by them and can’t get away. I am not intending  to impart any magical mantra of life or going to lecture about making choices. It is the hit and trial method always with which we human beings learn all the time. It is the primary cult of our learning curve.

I just want to ask few questions. Do we not know while making a choice about the possible good and bad outcomes of the choice ? Why don’t we weigh our choices against obscure reasoning related to that choice ? Why we always go for the obvious reasons and complete the process of choosing ? Why the choice becomes our destiny when the outcome is good and why it becomes our bad luck when the outcome is not favorable ? Why we attribute our failure of choice to bad luck and GOD’s wish ? Why we do not take charge and say yes I am responsible for making a bad choice ? Why don’t we accept it was solely our responsibility to make a right choice ?

As far as my horizon of learning permits me to see, I find, we humans are so weak emotionally and psychologically that we always need a support. An emotional and psychological support in the name of GOD, or in the name of Destiny, or in the name of Good luck or Bad luck. A support is what we need all the time.

But, isn’t it beautiful, a support out of no where soothes us to our inner cores and gives us power to re-build ourselves and take on a fresh start !!! Beautiful is the power of brain, it makes us believe so convincingly, the presence of this unseen and intangible support around us. Beautiful is the evolution that has brought mankind to such a successful state.

Isn’t the world around us is so beautiful offering us so many niche packs of choices for each one of us. All we need to do is to become stronger emotionally and psychologically over the learning curve of making right choices. Personally, I don’t want to be stronger emotionally, It is beautiful being weaker at it.

Who for Whom ? Who for me ? Who for you ?

A wedding in India is always made in heaven. Just the knot remains to be tied in this world. Indian bride and bridegroom ... a typical couple wrapped in all sorts of complications of bearing each other, compromising for each other, playing ring master and ring mistress over each other's freedom, being nice to relatives, reproducing sooner or later, bearing the child's responsibilities ... blah blah blah ... the list goes on. Scrutinizing on Basic things only, pleasure of being with someone special in your life is all lost. This is not at all touching any context of financial being of any human soul.

Still, in our blessed country people don't have the right to make their choices about their own lives ... the society is changing, going free from a conservative one ... The issues become ballistic here if someone wants to be himself or herself and break free some of the conventional chains of social bindings. Whats the fuzz is all about ? ... Almost everyone in this world will be an idealist and say the line with proud, "I believe in live and let live funda" ... all crap.
A thing we must understand first is that marriages aren't made in heaven ... its each of us on this earth who have enough intelligence to choose who to be with and whom not to be with. All other species around us have just a single purpose for male and female existence of their kind and that is to reproduce and move forward their kind by one more generation. It is us, the humans who have taken things a step further, we care for each other, we can decide.

The is the beauty of human beings ... they can become so pliant for each other when it comes to surmount complications. But, the irony that we exactly don't know for whom we should care with all our care ... Then we say emotions are all fraudulent driving waves in us. "Don't be emotional" becomes the basic tagline. And in all this confusion we loose the feeling of compassion and distrust becomes our primary weapon of attack and defense against each other. But of-course we can't trust everyone around. Reason being one more human trait, backstabbing. Lets put aside this for later.


Making a decision for us about who should be our soul mate is a blessing if you choose right and at the same time it is a curse if you choose wrong. Sometimes a male dares and say to his counterpart, a female, that he likes her and sometimes the female does this to a male. They starting getting along and 99% cases see a break up of their first relationship of life. They become emotionally drained and say that no i won't do this emotional thing ever again. Just there we loose all the power of being human and having the capability to decide.

See it like this, suppose you are a female and a male comes your way and goes away after sometime, you become hurt and keep it that way only for coming future. Being hurt is natural, being sad is natural, but all we forget amongst all the thinking and maturing is that there are so many of our kind out there and may be even better ones. What happens in other species? The male runs for a female and if he is not accepted by this female he runs again for another female ... We humans take rejection way too seriously.

If someone is not ready to be your Mrs. or Mr., take it easy ... don't forget there are many more who can be considered ... the punch line is ... just keep your eyes, ears and all senses perfectly open and set parameters to choose the right one for you. When he or she comes don't play dumb or be shy, be bold and take the first step forward, say what you feel. Again an acceptance or rejection will be the outcome but, again whatever it might be ... take it easy. The best part of this is, there are so many out there. Look for some one who gets easily in sync with you and share similar vibes and then only a state of harmony can be reached.

Finally, trusting your parents isn't a bad move to get your better half. Parents have loads of more experience with this world than we do but, we are also gaining experience, in our own ways and we must not stop believing in ourselves when it comes to take decisions. If you feel the other person is mature enough to hear you, take a step forward and speak your heart out, or you'll always regret later for your another decision.
Who for whom ?? Who for me ?? Who for you ?? Answer the middle one and you are happy. Answer the first one and the second one is automatically answered. Answer the third one and your are already helping your friends. Try it.